Lara Jean may be in love with Peter Kavinsky, but Lana Condor only has eyes for Anthony De La Torre.
The To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before star, 24, met the musician, 28, at a party in the summer of 2015. “I got his digits,” Condor recalled in March 2022 during an appearance on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon. “And as we were leaving, I was like ‘Oh, hey, hey, hey. I thought of this joke, but I forgot the punchline. Can I have your number? And then when I remember it later on, I’ll just text you.’”
The X-Men: Apocalypse star texted De La Torre just a half hour later with the joke in question: “What do you call a pile of kittens? A meow-ntain.”
Though Condor has become known for being at the center of love triangles onscreen, the couple’s real-life romance unfolded without any major drama. “There’s this weird misconception that love has to be difficult,” the Vietnam native told Grazia in March 2022. “It’s messy and painful and there’s so much passion, your world burns down. It’s beautiful on paper, but it’s not right. Love should feel safe and comfortable. With Anthony, I feel like I’m in a cocoon. Love doesn’t need to break you apart.”
After dating for six years — and adopting two dogs together — De La Torre proposed in December 2021 while they were on a trip to Mexico. “I guess [he] set up this whole grand thing, and that fell through,” Condor told Jimmy Fallon in March 2022. “So, on Christmas Eve, he was setting up this dinner on the balcony.” Despite dropping hints about a proposal, the Alita: Battle Angel actress didn’t expect him to pop the question that night.
“I thought that Christmas Eve was reserved for the baby Jesus,” Condor said, laughing. “So I was like, ‘It’s probably not gonna happen tonight. And it sure did.”
The singer confessed in January 2022 that he “wanted to [propose] for 6 years,” while celebrating their engagement on Instagram. “That moment when you ask your best friend to be by your side forever,” De La Torre wrote. “The easiest decision I’ve ever made was to ask this angel to be my wife.” He also worked with a Vietnamese owned jeweler to design Condor’s engagement ring, as a nod to her heritage. “Every detail of the ring has purpose and means so much to us both,” De La Torre explained.
Keep scrolling to relive Condor and De La Torre’s relationship, from their first meeting to getting ready to tie the knot:
August 2015
Condor told Us Weekly exclusively in January 2019 that she met her now-fiancé when he approached her at a Hollywood event four years earlier. “His pickup line was just, ‘Hey, I’m Anthony. I thought I’d make a friend,’” she said at the time. “So you go and you do that.” De La Torre’s line “worked,” and the couple were soon inseparable.
October 2015
The pair made their relationship Instagram official two months after their first meeting. “You know Anthony, @justjared does have a BBQ going on out on the lawn… a [burger] might be more appetizing…” the Deadly Class actress wrote at the time, alongside a goofy photobooth snap in which De La Torre pretends to bite his girlfriend’s face.
August 2018
Ahead of the Netflix premiere of To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before, Condor told Us exclusively that De La Torre was incredibly “supportive” of her career. “As actors, it’s been a learning curve as to how to navigate that world when we have romantic costars. If anything, if a girl flirts with him, I’m like, ‘Get it! He’s cute!'” she said.
The actress also gushed about De La Torre’s romantic side: “He writes me love letters, actually! He’s done that since we started dating and I keep them all. We try to keep the spark alive!”
January 2019
After filming an interview with puppies for Buzzfeed, Condor adopted one of the available dogs. She and De La Torre eventually decided to name her Emmy, in honor of the Emmy Awards party where they met.
January 2020
“We’ve been working on a very special project for months now for you guys,” the Patriot’s Day actress teased via Instagram, sharing a photo of her and De La Torre staring at a laptop while cuddling. “It’s been blood, sweat, and tears. It’s been highs & lows & sobs & laughs but we’ve done it together, and that’s what counts. Building dreams together. Love your loved ones, love your strangers. We can’t wait to share with you so soon.”
April 2020
One month into lockdown, the couple made a goofy video showing their followers how to “properly execute” a date night while in quarantine. “Let’s be honest. Quarantine can REALLY test your relationship, & we both want to be ROMANCED,” Condor wrote alongside the video, where the duo recommended getting takeout, picking flowers and enjoying a romantic meal together outside on their balcony. “Also, option B to this whole list: Get in a car, listen to your favorite album, and go cruising,” De La Torre says at the end of the clip, adding that “we did that” a few days before filming.
August 2020
The Pirates of the Caribbean actor gushed about Condor in a touching tribute post to celebrate their fifth anniversary. “5 years ago we went on our first date and saw a movie called The Gift. While the plot of the film in no way represents our life, the name of the movie couldn’t be more fitting to what you are. The greatest gift I’ve ever been blessed and entrusted with,” he wrote via Instagram. “From our tiny ass apartment with a blow up twin mattress to riding horses in Kenya, it has always been an adventure. Thank you for changing my life, inspiring me to grow, and making everything worth it.”
October 2020
The twosome did their best to keep things fresh during quarantine: “When I say @anthonydltorre and I have been in sweatpants for 7 months straight, dressed up for this pic, went outside to our driveway, snapped it, and went immediately back inside into sweats… I’m not lying!” Condor revealed via Instagram.
December 2020
Condor and De La Torre released their first single together, “No Way,” which features lyrics about not wanting to let go of someone special. “No way no way / I’m letting you slip / Away away,” the couple sing in the chorus. “Whatever this is / I’m feeling too much / To let go and let you become / A chance I didn’t take.”
February 2021
“Lana, you have never been more beautiful than right now,” De La Torre wrote via Instagram, while praising his partner ahead of the premiere of the final To All the Boys film. ” Not only have you not changed in the course of the last 3 years, but the best aspects of you have only grown. You deserve this and so much more. You are the hardest worker in the room. Watching how much you’ve poured yourself into your work the last few years has inspired me more than you’ll ever know.”
August 2021
Condor gushed about her boyfriend on their sixth anniversary, writing via Instagram, “Life with you is the only way I’d want it. Thank you for being the best doggy dad and always my better half. I never laugh harder than when I’m with you. I love you baby.”
She concluded her post, joking: “Also, you’re so hot. Like what?!”
September 2021
The songwriter shared some of the highlights from their summer traveling around the world on social media.
November 2021
“OK Google, what’s synonymous with ‘luckiest man on earth,'” he captioned a selfie that showed Condor gazing at him lovingly. “Anthony De La Torre.”
December 2021
Ahead of the release of De La Torre’s single, “Seasons,” the Moonshot star praised his talent and songwriting ability. “Dear @anthonydltorre, thank you for always inspiring me every day,” she wrote via Instagram. “Your dedication to your art, your vulnerability, your deep devotion to wanting the world to be a brighter place everyday, has me in awe constantly.”
January 2022
The pair got engaged after six years of dating in early 2022. “Saying YES was the easiest decision I’ve ever made,” Condor wrote via Instagram. “I consider myself the absolute luckiest woman alive to live in your sphere. Aside from my father, without a doubt, you are the greatest man in the world. Emmy & Timmy said it’s about time mommy & daddy got engaged!!!”
August 2023
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“Can we always be this close? (& by we I mean my sexy fiancé & @taylorswift),” Condor captioned a snap of herself and her love at one of Taylor Swift’s Los Angeles shows on The Eras Tour.
October 2024
The couple tied the knot in Malibu. “My mother Mary recently passed away, leaving my entire family devastated,” Condor told Vogue after the wedding. “But she would not have wanted us to not celebrate our love. We really wanted to get married at the Serra Retreat because being there was such a core memory that I had with my mom, and I felt like we would be able to feel her presence on our wedding night.”
After the nuptials, they got their wedding date their first tattoos together, each getting their wedding date inked on their arms.